Sex is not just intercourse. Sex is the flirting, the touch, the desire, the foreplay, and the intercourse itself. Lovemaking is simply one way sex is experienced, shaped by how slow you go, how present you are, and how much attention you give each other. What changes is the quality of how you show up, not the act itself.
Great post Meg! My wife and I went through this and the answer came down to a long, deep, very intimate conversation about what we both really want and desire from each other. We should have had this talk 20 years ago but that’s my fault 100%. Once we understood each others desires, wants, turn ons etc. It made everything better!!!! Couples really have to have this conversation even if it’s awkward(usually for the guy) before it’s to late.
That is a great insight. Two people can have sex for years and still have very different assumptions about what it means.
Sex is not just intercourse. Sex is the flirting, the touch, the desire, the foreplay, and the intercourse itself. Lovemaking is simply one way sex is experienced, shaped by how slow you go, how present you are, and how much attention you give each other. What changes is the quality of how you show up, not the act itself.
Great post Meg! My wife and I went through this and the answer came down to a long, deep, very intimate conversation about what we both really want and desire from each other. We should have had this talk 20 years ago but that’s my fault 100%. Once we understood each others desires, wants, turn ons etc. It made everything better!!!! Couples really have to have this conversation even if it’s awkward(usually for the guy) before it’s to late.