Thank you. It's so sad modern relationship is warring against traditional men instead of healing a marriage that need their help. They take a swipe against the husband, making the wife think he's the problem.
I regard the relationship advice at issue as another entry in the "Why do these men keep willfully refusing to read our minds like God intended?" genre.
There is indeed lots of disappointment = coercion content online, with hardly any encouragement for the rejecting partner to engage seriously with the relationship problem.
That's the problem. There are so many donts without giving advice on how to do. You see how they've rename promiscuity to slut shaming while putting roadblocks for couples who legimately want to.
Why? I think, it gives us the opportunity to refocus on our marriages. That will be good time to have that difficult conversation. Are we fixing us or going our separate ways. I'll be you, fixing will win, unless it's really bad. I think right now, modern relationship advice is the death of so many marriages.
This resonates deeply. As a pastor married 31 years who went through 6 years of sexlessness, I learned that coercion — even subtle — destroys trust. Real intimacy begins when we stop demanding and start listening. My first book on this drops May 31st.
This is insightful and exceptional. That last paragraph is pure gold. I love how this calls both individuals to maturity and agency. Thank you for writing.
Two things left me with questions: You mentioned that sex is the bedrock of a marriage. Can you explain what you mean? Wouldn't love itself be the bedrock and sex be one form of expressed love? Also, you said this is the biggest attack on sex in marriage right now. What are you basing that claim on? It is for sure a significant issue, our understanding of consent. But I am curious what backs up your claim that is the biggest attack? Just trying to seek understanding.
Truly, this is bold and brave and so vital to the conversation on consent. I feel immense gratitude for this as a man. Thank you for writing!
This is the most amazing entry I have seen on this site.
I read the “reddit feminist stories” on YouTube and everything they display is addressed in this article.
That it is written by a woman (assumption) is stunning.
Thank you so much for this. You absolutely rock.
I wanted to mash on the ‘like’ button like a crazed weasel on cocaine, but alas, they allow only once. Tis a shame.
I subscribed so hard I required a nap. :-D
Thank you. It's so sad modern relationship is warring against traditional men instead of healing a marriage that need their help. They take a swipe against the husband, making the wife think he's the problem.
Nothing about being pleasant and attractive. Many such cases. Sad.
I regard the relationship advice at issue as another entry in the "Why do these men keep willfully refusing to read our minds like God intended?" genre.
Nobody is a mind reader, man or woman. If don't say it, the other person won't know it.
There is indeed lots of disappointment = coercion content online, with hardly any encouragement for the rejecting partner to engage seriously with the relationship problem.
That's the problem. There are so many donts without giving advice on how to do. You see how they've rename promiscuity to slut shaming while putting roadblocks for couples who legimately want to.
To be honest I think when the youngest child is 18, marriages should be dissolved without consequences.
House sold, all marital assets sold and divided between the two former spouses.
Why? I think, it gives us the opportunity to refocus on our marriages. That will be good time to have that difficult conversation. Are we fixing us or going our separate ways. I'll be you, fixing will win, unless it's really bad. I think right now, modern relationship advice is the death of so many marriages.
Obviously I mean if both people wish to stay together they can.
But if one or both want a break.
I agree. Modern relationship advice is causing more harm than good to lots of heterosexual monogamous marriages.
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This resonates deeply. As a pastor married 31 years who went through 6 years of sexlessness, I learned that coercion — even subtle — destroys trust. Real intimacy begins when we stop demanding and start listening. My first book on this drops May 31st.
There is so much wrong with this article I don’t know where to start. So I probably won’t bother 🤮
This is insightful and exceptional. That last paragraph is pure gold. I love how this calls both individuals to maturity and agency. Thank you for writing.
Two things left me with questions: You mentioned that sex is the bedrock of a marriage. Can you explain what you mean? Wouldn't love itself be the bedrock and sex be one form of expressed love? Also, you said this is the biggest attack on sex in marriage right now. What are you basing that claim on? It is for sure a significant issue, our understanding of consent. But I am curious what backs up your claim that is the biggest attack? Just trying to seek understanding.
Truly, this is bold and brave and so vital to the conversation on consent. I feel immense gratitude for this as a man. Thank you for writing!